Metaphysics and Swag

Metaphysics and Dating Swag

What do metaphysics and swag have in common? Surprisingly…quite a lot!

Metaphysics is a branch of philosophy that deals with abstract concepts. It may have no basis in reality. Based on this definition, it has much in common with dating and the application of swag. How does one define swag? It is defined in the vernacular as “stylish confidence.”

It is an abstract, indefinable something that makes the heartbeat faster, the pulse race and expectations for reality rise. Like metaphysics, swag in dating is a series of indefinable actions that may—or may not—be in relation with reality. That is a connection between the two.

We often think of swag as a form of chemistry that is shared between two people when they are together. Like the elements of metaphysical philosophy, it is loosely defined. We may instinctively recognize them. Here are some observations that could be called swag or chemistry or might just be an indication of a metaphysical attraction!

There are metaphysical clues that express themselves in the physical.

1) An involuntary response. We usually call it blushing.

2) A male’s voice deepens, and women find themselves speaking with a high pitched lilt. Is it unconscious?

3) Body language clues: Physical expressions may indicate an opening. As an example, an unintentional touch, angling toward the opposite party when standing or sitting, clearing objects that might be hindering an approach. Have you ever seen it? Does it send a message without a word being spoken? It is metaphysical.

4) The ever-present eye contact: If it can build a bond when one catches a gaze and then holds it!

Now for the more obvious attempts at creating a metaphysical bond. This is how it might sound.

• · Ask questions that show an interest. Quiet and absence of inquiry show obvious detachment. Who are you? How do you think? What are you interested in? This list is long. How will you know what you share with another if you don’t ask?

• · Making plans…out loud!: taking a risk, jumping from the immediate moment into an unknown future. This shows self-confidence, a relationship to the unknown and indefinable swag!

Not every request to be a part of another’s future reality will work out. At the same time, a complete lack of inquiry can show low self-esteem, dis-interest, and an absence of swag.

• · Follow up: an expressive, but not necessarily suggestive, text, a phone call, or a stop-by at a commonly visited location can in itself show sincere interest and respect. It is not stalking! Done appropriately, it is swag and sure to insure a spot in the metaphysical reality of the other person.

We think the metaphysical originators like Parmenides and Aristotle were just living “in the day” and were clueless about how things are in the world today. But as it has worked out, they were right! Their concept of existence, the relationship between physical reality and conceptual feelings were “right on.” Using their precepts, we build our connections when building a metaphysical relationship. We can call it swag or chemistry. We respond when there is genuine care about the other’s needs and desires. We sense where there is real listening and a genuine response and open sharing. Future planning expresses a desire to know the other more completely and with greater depth. All learning is without judgement and even little details loom large.

The ancient philosophers were not so out of touch with the modern world. Even in their convoluted philosophy, they were in touch with human nature. In some abstract intuitive way, we deal with the connection between indefinable feelings and the reality of interpersonal communications. Metaphysics and swag have a lot in common!

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