What Do Women Want?

What Do Women Want?

What is it women want?

Sorry! Even women don’t know what the_____________ they want!

That puts everyone in the position of guessing just what women want.

Women want…err…sex! But not too much or too little sex. And certainly, without pressure to have sex. No obligations, or maybe with an obligation, perhaps even a commitment…or without a commitment…see where this is going?

Are you starting to get the picture? Damn if you do, damn if you don’t. Catch 22 to the max!

Women want affection. This is sex without the complications, right? But affection without expectations, or with just enough expectations to be, well, fraught with expectations? But not too much affection. That is off-putting. It is called being needy, or pushy, or too touchy-feely! And of course, it goes without saying, too little affection is really not good either. That’s when women start thinking—or over-thinking! You just don’t care, or perhaps you have low libido, or are not attracted, or gay even?

Now you are really getting the idea! There is just no winning!

Women want communication. But damn, do we have to discuss every little thing? Figure some things out for yourself, why don’t you? That becomes over-communicating. Do you ever shut up? Or do we have to beat every subject to a bloody pulp? Examine every nuance? Extrapolate from every pause, read into every sigh and word choice?

Then there is too little communication. You just don’t care what I think? Why doesn’t a woman’s opinion count enough to be heard? Is there no value to that part of who women are, or are you just interested the physical appearance. Or money, or services around the house? Is it the reality of just having another person in the room? Of knowing someone is listening when you talk.

Then of course, women want men who are self-confident. But there is a fine line between being self-confident and micromanaging everyone and everything around you. Between self-confidence and arrogance, there is a difference. Just as between self-confidence and being a know-it-all who never asks for directions when lost or calls a plumber when the house is three inches deep in water. Women don’t want that kind of self-confidence, but they definitely want self-confidence in their man. Just don’t try to define what type of self-confidence they want.

Women want stability. They want to be safe and able to trust in what might happen tomorrow. But they don’t want so much stability that there is never any expectation of surprise or uncertainty. Same job for 20 years? Great! But not a description of a creative thinker, or a risk taker, or an entrepreneur, or a person with ambition. That’s stability, yes, but where is the element of adventure and great expectation and the option of trying something new and exciting. With caution of course! That’s right, try something new, but without risking what’s stable and working!

What is it again that women want?

It seems like what women want is mind reading! Nothing cut and dried, tried and true, certain and fixed. There really are no pat answers. They want the good and the bad. The expected and the stable, but also the surprises and the risky. They want the normal and the abnormal. The average and the above average. The gentle and the fierce.

Is it starting to sound like unrealistic and unmeetable expectations?

It is up to you, the prospective partner to women, to figure out what women want. Don’t try looking for answers. There are none. Every woman, in fact, every person, is different in what they want. They want a combination of what they have, what they had, …and what they haven’t had. What they want, and what they don’t want.

If you think you have figured out what it is that women want, think again. Thinking that you know is just the first step in finding out that you have no real idea what women want. My best advice in trying to answer the question of what women want, first, just take a moment. Forget having a plan. Forget thinking you have figured it out. Forget having an answer. Forget figuring out what women want. Above all…Good luck!

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